How the My Brest Friend Deluxe Changed Our Days With a Baby

The first time I fed June in the middle of the night with the My Brest Friend Deluxe, I almost laughed. There I was, hunched over a pillow for weeks, one shoulder higher than the other, holding my breath so she would not pop off. Then I buckled this thing around my waist, sat back, and my back just... relaxed. I am Kara, a second-time mom outside Knoxville, and I spent five years as a pediatric dental hygienist, so I have seen plenty of parents wreck their posture over a feeding pillow that does not actually support anything.

With my son Eli, I used a regular nursing pillow. It worked fine until he got heavy, and then I spent every feeding hunched forward, trying to keep him at the right height. By the time June arrived, my back was already tired from carrying a toddler around. I told my husband Mike I would do things differently this time. I just did not know the difference would be this obvious.

The My Brest Friend Deluxe is not a pillow you rest a baby on. It is a pillow you wear. It buckles around your waist, so it stays put instead of sliding away from you. That one detail changed every feeding for me, and it is the reason I am writing this down for anyone who is currently feeding a baby with one hand while the other hand holds the pillow in place.

June is 8 months old now, and she is not a tiny newborn anymore. She wiggles. She reaches for the remote. She tries to roll mid-feeding. A pillow that stays where I put it matters more every single week. This is our story with it, the honest version, including the parts that did not work for us.

The My Brest Friend Deluxe buckles around your waist, so it stays put instead of sliding away from you. That one detail changed every feeding for me.

The first night I used it, I kept waiting for the pillow to slip. It never did. The buckle held it snug against my waist, and June sat right at the height where I did not have to lean down to her. I could sit up straight. I could reach for my water. I could even read a book, which felt like a small gift after weeks of staring at the same wall.

The other thing I noticed was how flat the surface is. A lot of nursing pillows curve up toward the baby, which tilts them sideways. The My Brest Friend Deluxe has a flat, firm surface, so June lay level. That mattered for her latch, and it mattered for my peace of mind. I am not a medical professional anymore, but I know that a baby who is lying flat and facing you is easier to feed safely than one who is tilted and rolling toward the gap.

I will be honest about the tradeoffs. The pillow is bulky, and it takes up real space in our living room. It also has a pocket on the side, which I thought was a gimmick until I used it to hold a burp cloth and my phone during a 2 a.m. feeding. Now I do not know how I lived without the pocket. The cover is soft and removable, which matters in a house with a 5-year-old, a baby, and a yellow Lab named Biscuit who sheds on everything.

Mike noticed the difference before I said a word. He walked in one evening and said, "You look comfortable." That sounds small, but it is not. For weeks he had been watching me feed June with my shoulders up around my ears. Now I sit back, she eats, and we both relax. Our 2019 Honda CR-V has the infant seat behind the passenger seat, and I keep the pillow in the house, not the car, because it is too bulky to haul around. It is a stay-at-home pillow, and that is fine with me.

I also want to be clear about what this pillow is not. It is not a sleep product. June sleeps on her back on a flat, firm surface in her crib, with nothing loose in the sleep space, exactly the way our pediatrician told us. The My Brest Friend Deluxe is for feeding, not sleeping, and I never leave June on it unattended. I do not claim it prevents any illness or injury. I just know it made feeding more comfortable for both of us.

What I'd Tell You If We Were Sitting at My Kitchen Table

If you were sitting at my kitchen table with a cup of coffee, here is what I would say. If you are feeding a baby and your back, neck, or shoulders hurt, do not wait as long as I did. I spent weeks with Eli hunched over a pillow that did not support him, and I thought that was just how feeding felt. It is not. A pillow that buckles around your waist and holds the baby at the right height is not a luxury. It is a tool that lets you sit like a person.

I would also tell you to read the manual and follow it, and to ask your pediatrician if you have questions about positioning. Every baby is different, and what worked for June might not work for yours. But if you are tired of holding a pillow in place with one hand while you feed with the other, the My Brest Friend Deluxe is worth a look. It changed our days, and I think it could change yours too.